What sort of fault is it that you can't take the individual self all that seriously? It's like a child, you like to see it happy and content but tantrums and tears are never far away - you have to give it attention, put it to bed. It can also be like a barely tame animal bearing a certain feral charm but liable to turn savage for no clear reason and do you serious harm. So much of what passes for culture is on behalf of these creatures and their peculiar notions, the pretentions are ridiculous and sometimes frightening.