In solitude the ties that hold the parts of the self together are loosened and you assume a rippling watery existence, but this is natural since you do not do the self thing very well. Perhaps its more correctly called persona, it's something like what you need when with others, a certain consistency and point of view and also ground for leverage. This persona, or simply person, is a largely mimetic structure, either others are the masters of it and you merely emulate them, or they are unable to do it and look to you as a fellow pretender to set the pace. This venture is not generic but of an historic specificity which it is your privilege to embody.