It is a mistake to regard the face to face experience as the root of the ethical, as carrying the force of a primary injunction, it is an ethical mistake with probably serious socio-cultural consequences. Instead the face to face must be seen to be about love, to be about facing your maker and judge and to be known through and through and found good: 'Who made the eyes but I?' You cannot know yourself as worthy outside of this encounter, quite the opposite, you can only come into it in humility and abjection, forsaken without any guaranty of the outcome. Take this, in full humanity, as the basis of your ethic and see where you end up.