The personage, the metaphysical correlate of personal names, appears in relation to the tellings and retellings of narratives and the careful nesting of frames. This is so much more stable in respect of others than in respect of yourself that in fact much of what you take to be your own 'self' is derived from that imputed to others. In other words the reverse of Husserl's idea of intersubjectivity is more true to the matter: it is because you are so impressed with the being of others, with their mysterious core and enigmatic consistency, that you take yourself as being similarly constituted. The project is never quite satisfactory, there are more threads you have to bring together in your own case and when a few of these are out of kilter then you feel lost, can no longer 'find' your self.