The solitary self owning, or own-ing, experience is something achieved out of a matrix of endless interactions of possible selves and their others and in which it first appears as an other, as say, identification with the figure appearing in a reflection. You cannot simply point to the who who is doing all of this, because to do so would be a 'type error', like the set of sets not containing themselves. But there could be no individual self, even as an illusion if there were not some knowing that has supplied its pattern. That knowing does not 'own' anything, has no experience. but is the experiencing prior to all reflection.