Ongoing experiencing in any instance, and it is mostly just everydayness, is built upon a framework or canvas that gives space, time, body, connection their scope and range of associated valences. This can change in surprising ways when something extreme is in play, pain or dissociation, or derangement or enjoyment aesthetic or somatic or both. You shouldn't be taken by surprise, not any more, but have practiced the framework as if it were another mind of its own, as if it were that very minds way of thinking of being in its own unaffected state.