Lacanians seem to preen on being the ones to assert that there is no sexual relation, just as Buddhists take their stand on the assertion that there is no self, and indeed that there is nowhere to stand, but the former is meaningless unless expressing the promise of sexual relations beyond the failure of 'the sexual relation', just as the latter would present the prospect of experience without the presumption of an experiencer, or the experience of no experience. What exactly is the sexual relation that the Lacanians are denying? Who believes in it? Some fantasy along these lines seems to pervade the culture in rituals and entertainment, but it could as well be argued that all or most of these appearances really express the continually renewed discovery that despite their being no set pattern for human relations, people still find each other and fall in love. And again, isn't the very pursuit of spiritual materialism the performative expression of the realisation that there is nothing material on which the spirit can endure?