After a singular feat of skill or courage, a hard-fought victory or an extraordinarily lucky escape the first question of the television interviewer is invariably, "How does it feel to have just ...?" The feelings which one can imagine no better after the response than before are products of the narrative and are most effective when they contribute new twists to it, thus expressions of happiness, "On top of the world, I'm just letting it all sink in", are less engaging than say, a tinge of sadness, "I just wish my father  had lived long enough to see this day". Like actions and purposes, fully narrated feelings form part of the web of stories that hold the context together, that realise the theory of mind, which, contrary to the naïve assumption, always begins with the presumed reality of other minds and uses this to infer the reality of your own mind. Action becomes performance and purpose ceases to be determinate but exists only in a superposition, its natural state of ambiguity. The reality of the individual is never in some substantial positive point, the closest it comes being in those moments when you are called upon to share how it feels, when you are affirmed as the irreducible possessor of a unique attribute, but in the process, the entire mediating process that links the personal and the social, and which offers the only complete context in which to interpret such moments. Metaphysics, like theory of mind, is embedded in social network theory.